12 body language signs he's secretly in love with you

Discover the subtle body language cues that indicate he's head over heels in love with you. Decode the signs and understand his true feelings.

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Body language is a powerful indicator of how someone is feeling — and when it comes to love, that’s no exception. When someone’s around the person they have feelings for, their body language reveals much about their feelings and intentions.

Thinking if your special someone returns your affection? In this article, we’ll discuss why body language is so important in deciphering love — and then give you a few helpful tips on reading the signs that he may be in love with you.

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Understanding body language in relationships

Understanding body language in relationships

Understanding body language in relationships is crucial for gaining deeper insight into your partner’s emotions and intentions. Body language accounts for 55% of our communication, while only 7% is conveyed through spoken words. 1

This means that what we say doesn’t always indicate how we feel — our body language can tell us so much more. People in relationships are especially better at decoding their partner’s body language and understanding what is really being said. 2

So, to know whether your special someone loves you, pay special attention to their body language cues. Not only will this help you to determine how they feel about you, but it can also be a wonderful way to strengthen your bond as a couple. 3

Of course, it’s important to remember that body language is not foolproof. We all interpret body language differently, and people can also be good at masking their true emotions.

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12 signs that he’s falling in love with you

12 signs that he's falling in love with you

Being able to read the signs that indicate he’s falling for you can help you determine whether your relationship will progress further. Here are twelve signs to be on the lookout for that could mean he loves you:

1. He looks at you a lot

Frequent and intense eye contact can be a powerful signal of interest and attraction. Prolonged eye contact has been associated with heightened feelings of love and desire, indicating a potential romantic connection. 4

When someone looks at you intently and holds your gaze, it may express their strong emotional attachment and growing love for you. So, pay attention to those moments of prolonged eye contact, as they can provide valuable insights into his feelings.

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2. He’s become touchy lately

Physical contact is a classic sign of love and affection, creating a sense of closeness and fostering emotional bonding. When someone becomes touchy, offering gentle and lingering touches signifies their desire to convey care, comfort, and attraction toward you. 5

Touch can release oxytocin, often referred to as the “love hormone,” which promotes feelings of trust, attachment, and intimacy. As a result, if he’s been affectionate in this way, it could be a sign that his feelings are deepening. 6

3. He remembers all the small details

When someone loves someone else, they tend to remember anything and everything about them. This includes seemingly trivial information such as their favorite color, the kind of music they like, or even the type of food they enjoy.

This is because our brains are wired to remember what we care about — and if your special someone pays close attention to all the small details related to you, it could be a sign that they’re in love with you.

4. He shows genuine interest and attentiveness when you speak

When someone is truly in love, they want to learn everything about you and will try to listen when you speak. Attentive listening behaviors, such as maintaining eye contact, nodding, and providing affirmations, indicate that he’s interested and invested in your words. 7

This is a powerful sign of love because it shows that he truly cares about your thoughts, ideas, and feelings — and wants to be there for you every step of the way. Active listening and genuine interest are surefire signs of a strong emotional connection.

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5. He seeks your approval

You know someone likes you when they become more conscious about their behavior, hoping to get your approval. This could be seen in various ways, such as seeking your opinion or advice on various topics — or always asking for your approval before making decisions.

Because seeking approval is a sign of vulnerability, he wants to ensure you’re happy and comfortable with his actions. It’s also a sign that he wants to please you and is willing to go above and beyond to meet your expectations.

6. He shifts his body towards you

Naturally, we tend to turn our bodies toward the people or things we are interested in. If your special someone is always angling himself towards you, it’s a sure sign that he is attracted to you and wants to be closer.

This behavior may seem subtle initially, but it can indicate his feelings for you. So, pay attention to the small changes in his body language when you’re together — they may tell you something.

7. He unconsciously imitates your gestures and actions

Mirroring, or unconsciously imitating another person’s behavior, is a strong sign of emotional connection. It’s thought that this behavior is an expression of empathy and an unconscious attempt to build rapport with another person. 8

So, if you notice your special someone copying or unconsciously following some of your actions, it could be a sign that he’s falling for you. This behavior can be a powerful indicator of emotional attachment and love.

8. He talks about you a lot to other people

If your special someone talks about you to his friends and family, it could be a sign that he’s in love with you. Speaking fondly of someone clearly indicates admiration and appreciation, which are both signs of love.

Talking about you could also mean he’s proud to have you in his life and wants everyone to know. If you notice that he often brings up your name in conversations, it could be a sign that he cares for you deeply.

9. He expresses vulnerability and openness to you

Sharing vulnerable thoughts and secrets is a sign of trust. When someone loves you, they want to be as open and honest with you as possible, which can lead to them expressing their innermost thoughts and feelings.

Being vulnerable with someone is also a sign that he’s emotionally intelligent and mature — important qualities in a healthy relationship. So, if he’s been opening up to you more lately, it could be a sign that he’s in love.

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10. He shows concern and takes care of you

Love means being there for each other, both emotionally and practically. If your special someone is always looking out for you, it could be a sign that he loves you.

He may show this by offering to help you with tasks, taking care of errands on your behalf, or always ensuring you’re comfortable and safe. This behavior is a sign that he wants to take care of you and ensure your needs are met.

11. He consistently makes time for you

Spending quality time together is an important part of any relationship, especially regarding love. If your special someone consistently makes time for you, even when busy or tired, it’s a sign that they value your company and want to be around you.

Making plans with someone shows dedication and commitment — two key elements of a loving relationship. So, pay attention to how often he sees you or sets aside time for you — it could be a sign that he’s in love.

12. He’s become more protective of you

Love often brings out protective instincts in people, so if your special someone is being extra careful with you, it could be a sign of his deep feelings for you.

He may express this protectiveness through physical cues, such as putting his arm around you in public or standing close to you when someone else is talking. It could also be seen in more subtle ways, such as him asking about your day or making sure that you’re always safe.

Ultimately, it’s the small behaviors that can be telling of someone’s true feelings. Pay attention to your special someone and look for signs that he is falling for you. If you see a combination of the behaviors listed above, it could be a sign that he’s in love!

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Amy Clark is a freelance writer who writes about relationships, marriage, and family. She has been happily married for over ten years and loves her husband and three kids. Before …

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