What to do when your husband thinks he does nothing wrong?

Relationship Expert Amy Clark January 31, 2024 • 6 minutes read

If you’re dealing with a husband who thinks he’s perfect and never wrong, it can be tough to know how to handle him. But don’t worry, we’re here to help.

In this blog post, we’ll give you some tips on how to make sense of your husband’s behavior and how to handle the situation in your marriage.

1. Figure out your own emotions

Before you can deal with your husband’s behavior, you need to figure out your own emotions. What specifically makes you think that your husband thinks he’s perfect? Think about examples of his behavior that bother you and try to figure out what’s driving your reaction.

Are you feeling ignored or dismissed by him? Do you feel like he never takes your needs into account? Are you constantly fighting about the same things? If so, then it’s likely that your husband’s behavior is causing you pain and frustration. Once you know what’s driving your feelings, you’ll be in a better position to address the issue.

2. Recognize that he may be acting defensively

One thing to keep in mind is that your husband may be acting defensively. He may feel like he’s always being attacked, and he may be trying to protect himself. In order to understand him better, it’s important to try and see things from his perspective.

That does not mean that you have to agree with him, but it can help you to understand why he’s doing what he’s doing. Try to see things from his point of view and ask yourself what might be motivating his bad behavior.

3. Talk to him about how you’re feeling

Once you’ve figured out your own emotions, it’s time to talk to him about it. This can be a difficult conversation, but it’s important.

Try to be specific when you’re talking to him and make sure that you’re addressing the behavior that’s bothering you. For example, you might say, “I feel like you never recognize when you’re hurting me or “I feel like you’re always dismissing my feelings.”

Be prepared for him to get defensive, and be ready to listen to what he has to say. Try not to get into a heated argument, but instead, focus on trying to understand each other’s point of view.

It’s also important to be respectful and avoid attacking him. Remember, you’re trying to have a conversation, not start a fight. If your husband is defensive, he may be less likely to listen to you. In that case, it might help to write down what you want to say ahead of time. That way, you can be sure to cover everything that’s on your mind.

4. Express your concerns calmly and without judgment.

One of the most important things to remember when dealing with a husband who thinks he does nothing wrong is to express your concerns calmly and without judgment. If you come across as angry or frustrated, he’s likely to become defensive and closed off.

Try to focus on the issue at hand and avoid bringing up past disagreements or fights. And above all, be respectful. Even if you don’t agree with him, it’s important to remember that he’s still your partner, and you should treat him with respect.

5. Negotiate a resolution

Once you’ve talked to your husband about how you’re feeling, it’s time to negotiate a resolution. Tell him that you won’t accept his disrespectful behavior and ask him to work with you to find a solution.

He may not be happy about this, but it’s important for him to understand that you’re not going to put up with his toxic behavior. If he refuses to work with you, then you may need to consider other options, such as marriage counseling or leaving the relationship. But remember, try to exhaust all possible options before reaching that point.

6. Give him time to understand

He may not change his bad behavior overnight, but with time and patience, he may be more willing to listen to your concerns. Try not to get frustrated if he doesn’t change right away and continue to express your concerns in a respectful way. Eventually, he may start to see things from your perspective.

If your husband truly loves you, he’ll want to make things right and work with you to resolve the issue. If he doesn’t, then it may be time to consider ending the marriage.

7. There’s no excuse for physical or emotional abuse in a relationship

No matter what your husband may say, there’s no excuse for physical or emotional abuse in a relationship. If he’s hurting you emotionally, it’s just as bad as if he was hurting you physically.

If you’re being abused, it’s important to seek help and leave the relationship. There are many organizations out there that can help you, and you don’t have to suffer in silence.

If you’re worried about your safety, please call a local domestic violence hotline. They can help you find safe housing and other resources.

Remember, you’re not alone. There are people out there who want to help you get through this tough time. You deserve to be happy and safe in your own home.

8. Seek professional help

If your husband’s behavior is causing you a lot of pain, it might be helpful to seek professional help. A marriage counselor can provide you with support and guidance as you deal with this situation.

They can also help you to communicate better with your husband and figure out a way to resolve the issue. If your husband is unwilling to go to counseling, you can go on your own. It’s important for you to get the support that you need during this tough time.

Marriage is not always easy, and sometimes you have to work hard to make it work. If your husband thinks he does nothing wrong, it’s going to take some effort on your part to get him to change his behavior. With time and patience, you can work through this issue and have a happy, healthy marriage.

Do you need more advice? Head over to our marriage advice guide.

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Amy Clark

Amy Clark is a freelance writer who writes about relationships, marriage, and family. She has been happily married for over ten years and loves her husband and three kids. Before …

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